from Thich Nhat Hanh, Taming the Tiger Within:

“Darling, I suffer, I’m angry, and I want you to know it.”

“I’m doing my best to take care of my anger. I’m trying not to blame anyone else, including you.”

“Please, do help me.”

If you are capable of writing or saying these three sentences, you are capable of true love.

If it is your partner who is angry, just listen. Listen and do not react. Do your best to practice compassionate listening. Do not listen for the purpose of judging, criticizing, or analyzing. Listen only to help the other person express himself and find some relief from his suffering.